Well I don’t know about you … but I know I wouldn’t want to be sleeping with bed bugs, and Cockroaches,witch like dark & dirty spaces and nest in clothing bunched up in the closet that haven’t been washed or picked up for months. When you are old enough to move out and rent a place you don’t want your little friends following you because if you infest it with your buddies …expect to get evicted. There way more rules to live by and responcibilies when you are out live on your own. AS parents we need to give you skills that will help you for your fucture. Hey! I don’t like having to do dished or laundry… It just have to be done weather we like it or not. Nobody else but you can do it.
Most kids are always up for a game of some kind. So try making it fun! First there must be some understanding of “where” things go. Such as a toy area or bin, dirty clothes hamper, a basket for books or bookshelf, etc. Try setting a small alarm clock (in the kitchen or family room) each day for the time (or the days) you want them to clean up). This is a external signal…. rather than you nagging them. Try loud music; turn up some fun dancing, giggly songs for 10-15 min. and the goal is to see if they can get done by the time the music ends. You work along side them the first couple of times to show them how sort and move quickly. If that gets boring – try a clean race. See who can get all their toys put where they belong the fastest – use a stopwatch or the second hand on your watch. Keep a chart – showing who is winning the race over a week or weeks. Make sure they are all cheering for each other as well. Maybe the winner can pick the next movie rental or fun night out. 2nd & 3rd place should also get “awards” of some kind – no losers in this race. Another idea, is that they all take turns helping each other. I’m not sure how often they need to clean up, but maybe on Monday – everyone pitches in for the 6 yr. old, then on Wed. for the 5 yr. old, etc. This can encourage cooperation as well, and maybe even some conflict resolution. You can even combine several of these suggestions. Lastly, make sure you & thier dad are giving lots of praise for a job well done. If they are still struggling – try to focus on what they did well and ask later if they need some help on something that seems more difficult. Everyone needs to feel encouraged. Good luck to you… hope this was helpful!
Because we want our house to be clean and your room is part of our house. Really, you dont own the room, your parents just let you live there…lol…
Interestingly though, I’ve recently decided to let my daughter keep her messy room. Only the floor has to be cleared once a week for vacuuming and no food is allowed in there. When I don’t want to see it, I close the door.
I just don’t think its worth the fight. She has other responsibilities that she takes care of very well and she can clean her room impeccably when she wants to. Of course with that, I don’t help her find anything that she looses in there. She’s realized that when she really wants to find something, she’ll clean up her room without being told. For us its a win-win situation.
Parents often forget that people have different comfortable level of how neat and clean their surrounding envirnoment is.
I hate to be in a room where everythings are totally neatly stacked room and everythings are at right angle. But some people do.
Some parents hate their children’s stuff. They hate their children’s little collection of whatever (they ask them not to put your collections or posters on display). They hate their children’s taste in their clothes (refuse to do the laundry), they just hate anything that is not chosen by them.
Since they can’t ask you to throw away things, they will tell you to clean your room, hoping your collection and things you bought will magically disappear.
Because cleaning your room is your parents’ way of making you responsible for something, and also it helps you contribute to the family by cleaning part of the house. Clean it!
Parents aren’t servants. They provide so much for their children and so often are taken for granted. Cleaning one’s own room is not unreasonable – it teaches responsibility, knowledge of the work that goes into caring for a house, gives time for the family to be together, teaches cleaning methods, and shows you respect your parents, but especially your mom – without whom you’d be nothing!
To teach them responsability. Cleaning rooms may be a chore but it must be done. That way the kid will know where everything is in his/her room and not have to look all over the place for what they need. Plus its just plain nasty to have a messy room.
because they want their children to learn how to take care of themselves. Im sure you can see how spoiled chilren turn out when they are older. Teaching their children at a young age forms a habit, and the child is more likely to continue with that habit, in comparison to starting the habit later on in life
My mom has OCD about me cleaning my room. I dont know why other parents make them do it.
So the room looks clean and to teach them resposability.,