We bought Jaxon, the JRT, around five years ago, for my daughters’ 14th birthday.
She fell in love with him, and they’ve been best friends ever since. However, last year she went off to college. She was going to take him with, but we talked about it, and agreed that being left in a small condominium with…
This is fixable. But it’s going to take time and effort. It sounds like the little guy doesn’t respect you as the pack leader in the house. Now as for why this is a sudden realization to him, I’m guessing that it has to do with your daughter moving out. Ask yourself if it is possible that your daughter leaving left you feeling a little depressed, and maybe compromised your alpha status? Did you maybe pamper the dog a little bit because he’s your daughter’s and she’s not there? Even if you didn’t, he has sensed a change in the pack structure and is dealing with it the way that dogs do; he’s trying to climb the social ladder. It has nothing to do with missing her. This is purely primal pack behavior. He sees an opening in the leadership role and his instinct says, “go for it!”.
Well, he needs to be knocked down a peg or two. This can be done with consistency, discipline, and limiting his freedom.
1. Begin crate training him for when you’re gone. This will prevent mishaps when you can’t watch him, and prevention is the key to stopping a behavior. See if a neighbor can come and take him for a short walk during the day so that he is not crated for more than 4 hours at a time.
2. Keep up with the runs and walks, and make sure that you are walking him properly and keeping him beside you or next to you on the leash. Don’t let him pull you. Consider taking him for bike rides, too. My JRT loved going for runs on the bike and it was easier for me to keep up with a pace that actually challenge him physically.
3. Keep him leashed when he is in the house. Leash him to your waist so he learns to follow you around. This also gives you the advantage of constant supervision so that you can correct him immediately if you catch him doing something wrong. Corrections after the fact don’t do anything. You must catch him in the act.
All of this sounds like a challenge of authority. Look into the Nothing in Life is Free training method for everyday use in addition to the suggestions above.
This can be fixed. Think of it as a project that will be very rewarding in the long run.
What I think was happening is the dog wasn’t being taken out enough to potty. So he wasn’t properly potty trained. Maybe at first, but then when people haven’t been taking him out enough..well, one can only hold it for so long. A couple times a day isn’t enough, and the dog wasn’t getting near the exericise he needed.
If you can’t give him the time, exercise, etc. that he needs, then yes, do rehome him. And not to Demi, because she can’t give him the proper care, either.
The biggest reason a dog tears up stuff in the house is boredom and lack of exercise.
But if you do keep him, make sure he gets tired out before you leave for work, is crated when you are at work, and tire him out when you get home again. Make sure you are outside with him. He’s tearing up the yard due to boredom and lack of exercise.
You can also adopt an adult playmate for him.
“I didn’t list “rehoming him”, because I don’t think anyone would be willing to put the time, money, and effort that he needs into retraining him.”
I rescued four dogs and put the time and effort into training them.
You don’t explain much about his incontinence problems and what the vet thinks it is due to. Whatever it is, surely there is a better solution to whatever the problem is than velcro bands? They aren’t a solution at all to what is a medical problem.
Any sudden changes in a mature dog mean straight to the vet.
I doubt very much that this is to do with your dog “missing” your daughter… a dog will ‘pine’ for a person only for a very short period.
My guess is that it is one of two things –
1) To do with his medical incontinence problem. In which case, all you can do is go to your vet and tell them absolutely everything.
2) That your daughter was the main trainer for your dog and now that she is gone, he is not being trained. A trained dog won’t necessarily stay trained forever if you are not reinforcing what he has been trained to do (and not do). Maybe she exercised him alot and his exercise suddenly dropped when she left.
I’m fairly certain he is trainable. By you, if you put in the effort, but CERTAINLY by someone you rehome him to who has the drive, patience and time he needs.
~ Pearl, This is a very difficult situation but, I truly believe that a bigger man is watching over us, that is why you are now in a better place. And trust me you need not to do anything cause those people who put you down and threw you out will get theres when the time is right, maybe they didn’t get it at first cause God wanted them to SEE you make it. And you have. I have forgiven everyone for all the bad things that they have done to me, but you never forget, this is why i find it so hard to trust again, to believe again in some things. But i know that one day we all get what is coming to us rather it be good or bad, and all we have to do is accept it cause that is how it was meant to be. I know at times you might feel like rubbing it in their face and that is a normal feeling. And when they contact you just say what you have to say and be serious with them. Maybe even if you let them know how you feel it might help you a little to relieve all that anger or recentment you have toward them. I hope you are doing okay hun. Much hugs to you. Love, Julie
It really sounds like he is acting out because his “person” is gone. If the dog and your daughter have been inseparable since you got him, and then she left, then I can certainly understand why he’s upset. He feels abandoned.
I think you need to tell your daughter about this. I know that you take care of him, but realistically, he’s her dog. Because your daughter is the one he is bonded to. You don’t know that he’ll behave the same way if he goes to live with Demi… The behaviors might clear up once he’s back with her.
Question: I’m sure Demi has been home for breaks in the school year… Does the behavior continue when she’s home?? If not, I think you have your answer.
2nd Question: Why don’t you crate him when you’re not home? Take away the opportunity to misbehave.